Meeting Yesterday

As you know, we had the meeting with Bio Aunt and Uncle yesterday. It was uncomfortable at best. After speaking with CPS as to how sibling visits would transpire, I went out side to meet up with my family and leave. C immediately approached me and asked "Why am I not going to visit my aunt and uncle any more?" I asked her to get in the car and then I began to explain as simply as possible that a family can not see two therapists and that until a decision to stay with Mrs. B for services or until the judge allowed for a different plan to be in place, that visits with them would be suspended. She tried to ask clarifying questions but when I answered, she snapped back at me. I let it go. She was obviously stressed.

She was wearing a new necklace. Not new... new to her. She brought it up moments later, proudly showing it to me. Turns out that her bio mom from jail sent it to aunt G and that aunt G gave it to A, the sister to give to C. So here it was. From jail to C's neck. I have specifically asked Aunt G to NOT send the letters from bio mom's jail to C until this situation is more resolved. The poor child is in a state of emotional confusion as it is and yet, look what happened. Is she being intentional in her pursue to get bio mom's stuff to C or is she not aware enough to relize what she is doing?? Either way, I don't know how you feel, but it is NOT appropriate. Her bio mom is getting out of jail soon but has a history of gang and drug issues- enough to spend more than one stay in jail. How is this going to be addressed? How does CPS feel about involvement and contact by bio mom?

So C was stressed last night. She was short, moody, and BOSSY! We let more go than normal given the situation. I asked how things were with her brother and sister. She had fun with them.

I put her down for bed and had a moment to talk. I asked her how she was feeling when her aunt and uncle told her that they weren't going to see her for a while. She didn't know. I asked her how she felt about it now. She was casual and stated that it made her sad. I asked "sad for you or sad for them?" She replied ," Sad for them." I guess her uncle was crying adn she doesn't want to hurt them. She said that she didn't mind seeing them, she just doesn't want to live with them. I think she was really happy with the way things were with visitation at Beth's. She felt safe. She, in a weird way, did enjoy seeing them in this safe environment. I don't think she cares two flips about seeing aunt, but uncle, she feels bad for. She had so much as said that even uncle is treated mean by the aunt so she feels relatable with his situation.

The whole thing is so sad. It is sad that aunt and uncle can't even see where the divide in the whole therapy situation exists, let alone compromise on how to get to a place that works for everyone. As much as C doesn't want to go back to living with these people, I think she even feels bad that they don't get it.