Well, we got a call from the school principal today. Turns out that C had an incident a few days prior at school with some friends. She wasn't the perpetrator, rather the accompliss and instigator. She and a friend encouraged a boy to go and be with a girl that he liked, full well knowing the girl didn't like him. What is especially sad about this is that the girl that was victimized in this was one of C's best friends prior to this and yet she did this to her. No wonder no one showed up to her birthday party.
C said that when she did the instigating, she didn't realize that it would hurt the friend to the extent that it did. And yet after this, later that night at her church group, she did the same sort of behavior with her best friend from church.
Lastly, she didn't tell us about the incident. We heard it 2 days later from the school principal. WOW. That was not the mature decision either.
We talked with C at length about how we need to be able to see how people will be affected by our actions. She didn't want to admit to her responsibility in the situation. She also was put off by the fact that we were working to make her understand. She didn't get the gravity of the situation. We also talked about how liking boys is an intimate and private thing. It is a sensitive thing, or atleast should be. At the Wed night group, she is inappropriate in her engagements with the boys she likes. We talked about this as well.
At the end of our talk, we told her that being disciplined at school results in restriction at home. WOW did she lose it. We opted to hold off on her restrictions until Sat since there is Halloween but she FREAKED on us. Calling us mean and destroying a radio.
That evening she was with her grandma due to Dad and my's date night. We felt if we cancelled that she would be encouraged to miss-behave since she always acts out to one extent or the other to try and keep us home on date night. Anyway, poor grandma got it BAD last night. She was totally rude and inappropriate. Refused to do her homework, was fake crying, telling her what to do. Fortunately, I have talked with grandma at length about how to deal with this from her. Grandma did real good and half way through the night, C appologized and went on to have a good evening. Grandma was really bothered by the extent that her behavior went to this time. I will have to address it with C because though Grandma did well, she can not feel that there are no consequences for such behavior.
As most of you know, we got another email from school that C is not in control of her ADD at this point. She is a loose goose at the desk, constantly twitching and today was reported to not even be walking normally. I do see these same behaviors at home. We have an appointment on Monday to get her meds adjusted.
I meet the new case manager on Halloween. I meet with the school on Halloween.
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