Well, Friday was a sad day, though C wouldn't describe it as that. She had sent out 12 invitations to her party, not including the verbal invite to her two "cousins" which were obviously coming. This was the day of her Friend Party, from 4 in the afternoon until 7 that night. I had no one RSVP except for two friends from church (good girls that I like a lot). C thought that more were coming though I tried to brace her that they may not be. One girl showed on time. The other came 30 minutes late, and then it was just C, her siblings, and her 2 cousins. C asked "is this all that is coming?" I assured her that it was and that it was JUST the right amount to have good fun. She did have fun, but the fun was covered in a subtle disappointment as well. It is so hard to be the new kid at school- to be a kid whose ADHD isn't managed yet, and to have such a history that she shares all too openly. So much to work on with her, to help her adjust... but for now, she sees how her friends from her Wed night group accept her without question and how they love her because of who she is, not dispite who she is. She is a GREAT YOUNG LADY. It is so sad that more people don't look into her to see it.
Anyway, enough of the sad party and on to the GREAT party she had today. It was all starting at 3 and her family showed up- meaning my family and J's family. Her "uncles, aunts, cousins, grandparents, great grandparents, etc" we all here for her. She was SPOILED with gifts and she was the classiest, most gracious birthday girl making this Mamma proud as she gratefully thanked each person as she opened the gifts. She ate, played Rock Band, made jewelry from a craft kit we got her and truly had a blast. Winding down for bed was running late due to all the excitement but the pre-bed chat went good.
I asked her if she had fun and she nodded with great excitement and said she had more fun at this party than the one with her friends. She was herself today, and had to fit in on Friday and it was obvious. She said she loved Rock Band and loved the gifts. She raved about the cake that Grandma had made her special to match her fancy napkins. We replayed the day in detail as I snuggled with her...
I told her about the visit with her bio sibs tomorrow. She nodded, not fully understanding what it meant. I didn't want to detail it out again- just told her she would get to see her brother and sister and she seemed unphased by it as I spoke. Who knows what she is thinking now that the lights are off and she is in bed. I am worried for her as to how it will go. She is expecting to sit and just visit with her sibs, not to hash out issues they have or have had. She misses them, especially her sister. She loves them. She is not expecting that they have hard feelings and she is thinking that they miss and love her, too... Could be hard to hear otherwise.
Anyway, since the big discipline we had, she is doing really great. She did stand firm over some yogurt today. She picks the silliest things to pull out her control card over... we worked it out and before dinner tonight, she ate it... but it was served for breakfast so I wouldn't say I was victorious but I was able to live with the compromises and for those compromises, I am grateful. I love this young lady and was SO PROUD of her today.
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